On Good Friday, I stayed with my aunt (my dad’s oldest sister), who has Alzheimer’s, while my cousin went to church. My cousin, Shirley, has lived with and taken care of her mother for over eight years now and cherishes every second of their time together, even though her beloved mother no longer recognizes her or anyone else.
As I waited for Shirley to get home from church, I thought about the rest of my dad’s family. His four brothers and four sisters were all kind and decent people who enjoyed each other’s company. They were funny as hell and liked a good party, so I have lots of warm memories of holidays and reunions. But now only one brother and three sisters are left, and two of them have serious health issues.
The one to whom I am closest is my only remaining uncle (and his wife and kids), and I don’t know how I’ll handle it when he dies. That’s because I always wished that he had been my father. He is so many things that my dad was not. I love this man dearly and hope he has many more healthy years.
Thinking about my dad’s family makes me sad. It also makes me realize that I haven’t seen my aunt and uncle for a few months. So, given how quickly time slips past me, I’m going to visit them this week. Now I feel better!
Monday, April 12, 2010
Melancholy Thoughts on Good Friday
Posted by Sandy Laurence at 10:33 AM Monday, April 12, 2010Labels: Living and Dying
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Sandy Laurence is a writer, editor, wife, mother and grandmother. She's the Grandmothers Editor for Type-A-Mom (http://www.typeamom.net/) and works as a freelance writer, after years in finance for the auto industry. She also actively pursues numerous interests, including photography, gardening, politics, making jewelry and pottery, and loves volunteering for Michigan Master Gardeners, hospice and for the local literacy council as an ESL tutor.
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